be where your feet are

Let’s not over complicate this: the most underrated superpower in leadership, relationships, and life is presence.

Not presence like “I showed up and sat in the room.”
Presence like “I’m fully here body, mind, and soul.”

Let’s Talk About Joe

Joe’s a good guy. Hard worker. Big ideas. Always on the move.
The only problem? Joe checks his phone every 10 minutes.

Literally.

The average person checks their phone 96 times a day. That’s once every 10 minutes. Im currently at 56 times and its only 2:pm. 
We’ve become tethered to distraction and then wonder why our relationships feel thin, our meetings feel meaningless, and our leadership feels like it’s stuck in neutral.

You can’t lead what you won’t look at. You can’t love what you won’t pay attention to.
And you definitely can’t grow if you’re only halfway present.

The Real Flex? Being Present

Here’s the truth:

“The most powerful person in any room isn’t the one talking the most it’s the one who’s fully present.”

Being present is a rare skill now. It’s also the most valuable one.

Because when you are truly present with someone phone down, distractions off, eyes locked in you’re saying something loud and clear:

Presence communicates value. Distraction communicates disrespect.

You don’t need a TED Talk to build trust. You just need eye contact and a pause that says, “You matter.”

Kill the Noise

If you want to change how people experience you change how you show up.

Presence isn’t passive. It takes work. It means silencing notifications, setting boundaries, and disciplining your mind to stay in the moment.

It means you stop multitasking (which studies show drops your effectiveness by up to 40%, by the way) and start being a person who’s actually in the room.

It means you stop waiting for the “important moments” and realize this is the moment. The lunch conversation. The car ride. The check-in. The Tuesday afternoon.

That’s where trust is built. That’s where leadership happens.

Final Word

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present.

You can’t always control what’s happening around you, but you can decide whether you’ll be in it or not.
Because showing up fully doesn’t just change how others experience you it shapes who you become.

So here’s the move:
Put the phone down, Joe.
Be where your feet are.
And watch what happens when you give people the gift of your full attention.

Let’s go.